So when I moved in with my girl friend in our new home, amidst the clatter and clanging of our things and conversations, one late night sitting in my favourite reading chair, as we did not have our sofa or any living room furnitures, my girl friend ‘Sohini ‘ 🙂 came up with this brilliant idea what if we try getting less furniture and for one month lets have a life being a minimalist, like you see in all those neutral Youtube videos where everything is pristine, clean and totally mess free life.
Initially the idea didn’t strike me a chord but when I realised my pockets will burn less I was game for this hot pursuit with our sleepy cat purring from behind. It was like he was enjoying our silent conversation at the wee hours.
So the following days, Sohini came up with a list, which she was trying to discuss about at weird hours, I was totally focussed and my eyes were fixed and dazed at what I saw.
Since she was so much hovering on every single idea about minimalism, I kind of wondered what actually we would need in the new place with the ‘minimal’ limitations, and keep imaginary views at bay. Finally we decided to get only four items, 1 round table, 2 chairs which will serve our dining as well as study table and 1 pet cushion for our cat ‘Priceless’ :)) and 1 rug. These four items totally was Ok from my size.
Since we both liked neutral and beige shades we found the furnitures from Ikea and the rug and cushion we bought from Castlery. We both were so excited to lay and exhibit our items that we totally forgot the fact that slowly we were transforming to a better life and space, with less .
‘Less is truly a great way of improvising our life ‘
The entrance of our home looked totally clear and clutter free. I was feeling relaxed and much better every time I stood near my flat, as if the space had uplifted to a feeling of warmth and ecstasy.
I never felt like this before in my earlier house. There was a stark difference between the two.
I not only felt a fleeting love for this new lifestyle but also felt great to share the space with my girl friend even more. I enjoyed totally. I truly believe and feel the life one can experience being a minimalist.
You need not play games or discard things which you have collected, just what you need is to consume less
and the rest everything will fall in place.
Then one day while at work, my boss stepped in my cubicle and explored, ‘Tony I’m visiting you soon, want to see your new place’ … :))) that was the tip of the ice berg.
Well well… every good thing has to end one way or the other, so when I went back home and shared this with my beloved girlfriend ..she looked into my eyes and asked where will your boss sit, we don’t have a sofa 🙂
A Norwegian 6’3″ something or even more, will sit on the floor or dining table 😛 and discuss work …
I pictured the vision for a min and shook my head, but buying a sofa was not our choice, both of us resented at the thought. When we ate dinner that day, I looked at my girl friend’s questioning eyes and felt, does our social and material values define who we are? Does it really bring out our identity?
Pretty queer and totally chaotic. I poured some red wine to banish my emotional chaos, and while sipping from the eternal glass of emotional dilemma, ‘sohini’ spoke in the most languid voice, Tony lets get a sofa, after all its your boss’, but I was extremely reluctant about the fact of getting something to satisfy a social need.
I coldly uttered ‘No’.. my low voice did the rest of explanation, which after so many years of togetherness, my girl friend just knew it’s not going to work.
Ultimately, we stood up to a minimalistic exhibition, and when the day came when my boss was visiting us, although I was tensed a bit, the evening went well in fine camaraderie.
My boss who is a bit of a hoarder and a bachelor enjoyed his time and appreciated our space, so much to our surprise, that we three just forgot about our material belongings for some time. The evening went well that day, and I just learned a lesson from life, whatever we buy from impulse or just to make someone happy or approve with their mindset, it doesn’t work.
The hard fact is we must do what makes us feel happy and comfortable 😛
The other side of Minimalism is just ‘being yourself‘ which you won’t find or achieve spending your wealth in buying wooden boxes, or folding your clothes like Marie Kondo. Everyone must learn to enjoy and live a life to their terms and when we start doing it, we are actually upgrading our consciousness, just like meditation.
We meditate because it helps us to reduce stress and anxiety, similarly we accumulate less to enjoy a conscience living. I feel if you have the secret of minimalism with you always, you will understand and experience the difference.
Its just that you haven’t felt it or experienced it cause you are always busy with your ‘More’
The other side of minimalism to me is enjoying life just the way you want it to be, with your girlfriend and experiencing joy with all the things that define ‘less’ !!